Sex Stories From Bradford

My girlfriend of three months is gorgeous but she has a very hard side. Every so often she insists I strip, allow her to tie me up and then she whips me. I know I could refuse to co-operate but she said if I do she will dump me. She says there are plenty of blokes who would love to be whipped by a young woman. But I find it difficult to have sex after being whipped as I can’t stand her touching my sore back. Will she grow out of this need to bully me or will I have to put up with this for the rest of our relationship? If so I will have to con­sider my position carefully.

I have been with my wife for 13 years and we have a very normal sex life. But she has now suddenly asked if we could organise an orgy and I am shocked. We are both attractive, in our mid 30s and have never really included any­one else in our sex life. I want to make her happy and I will do it but does this mean that I don’t sat­isfy her anymore?

I’m an 18-year-old lad and I am sleeping with a 42-year-old woman. I was out with the lads on a Friday and at about 2am I was drunk and decided to get a cab home without the others. In the taxi queue was this gorgeous older woman and she lived about five minutes from me so we decided to share and split the fare.

On the way home she hitched her skirt up and I could tell she had no knickers on. I ended up back at hers and we had the best night of sex I’ve ever had. We swapped numbers and have slept together six or seven times since, but I’ve now found out she’s married and her husband works away. I’m not sure it’s right to carry this on.

You should speak to her and see what she wants if it’s no-strings fun while her husband is away then I say enjoy it. If she is looking for a relationship from you and is willing to leave her husband then you need to think about whether this is what you want. You are still quite young and I’d imagine she may want more.

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks and every­thing seemed to be going well. But we were out at the pub the other night, and he spanked me in front of all his mates. It made me feel uncomfortable but I didn’t say anything.

When we got home, he started doing it again and I told him to stop. His answer was “What if I don’t?” which creeped me out a bit. After a blazing row he didn’t do it again but my worry is that this could be the start of something worse. He is a builder getting lots of sex from other girls. I dont mind this. That turns me on. But I do not like getting spanked.

My girlfriend likes us to have sex in front of people, and although it was daring and exciting to start with, it’s beginning to get a bit much. It started at a pal’s party last Christmas when we were playing strip poker.

We ended up losing and were the only ones in the room with no clothes on! After the game we start­ed kissing and we ended up having sex on the sofa while everyone watched, cheering us on.

Now every time we’re at a friend’s house she wants us to have sex in front of them. I often give in, and our friends say it really turns them on, but I’m not happy about this situation. What should I say to her?

Tell her that you too enjoy the risk and excitement of having sex in front of other people but you’d quite like her all to yourself. Why not say it’s not as much fun now that it’s happening all the time and that it may be best for you to limit it to once a month? That way it’ll be good for you both. Organise a nice evening in with wine and chocolates and have sex alone she may remember that it’s just as much fun.