Secret Sex Life of a Nursery Nurse
Sian, a 25-year-old nursery nurse from Newport who is married to Tom: ‘It might sound old-fashioned to admit that I actually lost my virginity on my wedding night, but that’s what hap¬pened. I’m from a family with strong religious values, and though I don’t believe everyone should abstain from sex before marriage, it was something which was always personally important to me. Tom, my husband, is 12 years older than me, and we originally met when I was 16, as he was one of the tutors I had when I was doing my A-levels. As soon as I saw him, I had this funny feeling that one day we would end up together, and he later said the same thing, but obviously given my age and the teacher-pupil re-lationship between us, acting on those feelings would have been wrong and an abuse of power on his part. So I dated boys of my own age, but I still hankered after Tom, and I remained a virgin be-, cause I knew I wasn’t going to marry I any of these lads. I did split up with one or two because they tried to put pressure on me to lose my virginity to them, and once they knew I wasn’t up for it they started telling me I was frigid and rubbish like that. But I stuck to my principles because I knew what I was doing was right for me.
‘And then, two years after I’d left college, I bumped into Tom in a coffee bar’ in town. We got talking, and this time we knew there was nothing to stop us from getting together.
‘It was about a month after we’d started going out that I admitted to Torm that I was still a virgin. I explained to him the reason why, worried that he might react negatively, as some of my past boyfriends had done. Well, I’m happy to say that he respected my choice. We still had lots of sexy fun together — plenty of finger play and oral sex, and he even en¬couraged me to use a vibrator on myself so I could get to know what turned me on and how my body worked — but we didn’t go all the way.
‘Nine months after that meeting in the cafe, we got married. We had a lovely church wedding with all our family and friends present, and that night Tom and I booked into a small B and B on the coast. We didn’t actually have sex before we fell asleep — we were both far too tired after the day’s events — but the next morning Tom took my virginity.
‘He spent a long time pleasuring me with his tongue, getting me ready for him. I was on the verge of orgasm, and then he stopped. He climbed on top of me and put his hard cock at the entrance to my pussy. This was it, this was what I’d been saving myself for, and for one moment I was really afraid that it was all going to be one huge let-down, or that it would be over in seconds. I shouldn’t have worried. Tom slid into me slowly, and because my hymen had already been broken when I’d been playing with the vibrator, there wasn’t any pain. It did feel strange to have him inside me, but it was good, and soon he was moving gently and getting me used to being filled by him. Because he wasn’t a young lad, he wasn’t overexcited about fucking me, and so he was able to pace himself until I was having my first ever orgasm while being penetrated. It felt amazing, and at that moment I was so in love with my wonderful new husband.
‘As I’ve said, I wouldn’t suggest to anyone that they have to wait until they get married before they lose their virginity, but I do strongly believe in waiting until you really know someone and not just rushing into sex because you’re frightened you might be missing out. I think that way, a lot of women in particu¬lar would have much better first times than they actually do.’
